Have you ever felt guilty for something that you’ve done or something that you didn’t do? Are you stuck with the guilty feelings and unsure how to move past those feelings, acknowledging and releasing them in a healthy way?
I have many times in my life been somewhat proficient in the art of guilt; it affects us all to one degree or another. Whether it be guilt for not being great at keeping in touch with family and friends, for not visiting parents as often as we think we should or for listening to people who blame us for decisions that they don’t agree with but which we knew we needed to take. We are all faced with situations big and small in which guilt can take a hold and working through this is essential for our peace of mind and emotional well-being.
In reality guilt is one of the least productive emotions we experience in life. It serves very little purpose unlike emotions such as anger, which can motivate us, or grief which allows us to release things and people with love. Guilt is often no more than a mechanism that leads us down the path of anxiety, self-hatred and feelings of insecurity, failure and unworthiness.
Guilt is strongly connected to messages that we are programmed to believe as we grow up. It’s centred on expectations, particularly what we expect of ourselves. Often linked to the word ‘should’ we believe that we should be or act in a certain way and when we don’t live up to that expectation or standard, we feel guilty.
So how do you acknowledge and release guilt in a healthy manner, therefore allowing you to move on with a more peaceful frame of mind? With the use of Sodalite and Larimar, here’s what I like to do when Guilt rears its ugly head. It’s quick and easy to fit into your life and the results can feel very healing.
Using Sodalite and Larimar to Eradicate Guilt
Why Larimar? – Larimar is great for alleviating grief, promoting self healing, bringing mental serenity and clarity, calmness and balance.
Step 1 – Identify your Expectations
Holding a piece of Sodalite or placing it near to you, identify what expectations you are holding that you feel you have not lived up to. Write them down starting with just 1 or 2 to begin to avoid overwhelmed.
Step 2 – Evaluate if your Expectations were Realistic
Continuing to use the Sodalite as it has the ability to calm the mind and encourage objectivity and truth.
Take your identified expectations in turn, and as objectively as you can, ask yourself if your expectations were realistic.
Step 3 – If your Expectations were not Realistic
If you determine that your expectations were unrealistic and you could never have lived up to them (and a lot of guilt falls into this category) then you can put that expectation to rest and move on. The meditation outlined in Step 5 can help you do this.
Step 4 – If your Expectations were Realistic
If after you have considered your expectations you find that they were legitimate, be kind to yourself. The one productive use of guilt is to show us where we can make changes, make amends and do things differently next time. Taking responsibility for what we believe we could have done differently is an exceptionally empowering step to take. And remember, in the words of Louise Hay:
“We do the best we can with our understanding at the time, and when we know better, we do better”
Make your amends or changes as soon as you can, learn from your behaviour and accept that no-one is perfect.
The meditation using Larimar as outlined in Step 5 below can be used to help you accept your situation and leaving guilt behind.
If you are feeling a little overwhelmed, you may benefit from speaking with a trusted friend or you may wish to speak to a professional who can help you work through your issues.
Step 5 – A Meditation to move on from Guilt
This meditation uses a piece of Larimar and can be carried out as frequently as you wish. It should last for at least ten minutes and after this time has elapsed you can continue until you feel the time is right to stop.
- Holding a piece of Larimar gently in your left hand (or a piece in each hand if you prefer), sit quietly and comfortably in a place where you will not be disturbed. You may wish to light some candles and play some relaxing music.
- Clear your mind and ask your higher self for guidance and assistance with releasing the guilt that you have been feeling.
- As you hold the Larimar imagine its beautiful blue soothing energy rising up your arms and down into your heart and into your solar plexus. As the energy enters your heart and solar plexus feel it envelop that which you wish to release. You may see, feel, or sense a release, feel a change in your the emotions, or you may just sense that a change is occurring. Give thanks to the feelings of guilt for the role that it played in your life and be grateful for the lessons that it taught you.
- After you have felt the release, picture your heart and solar plexus filling up with beautiful diamond white energy which will cleanse your heart, solar plexus and body fill it with love and healing energy.
- After you have finished your visualisation please take time to gently bring your awareness back into the room and be careful to slowly stand up and ensure that you are grounded (i.e. your head is not feeling ‘floaty’). If you do feel a little spacey you can visualise tree roots growing down your legs right down into the centre of the earth securing you. An alternative way to ground yourself is to hold a piece of hematite for a couple of minutes.
The results that you get using this visualisation will vary depending on what you are releasing. For optimum results carry out this visualisation twice a week until you feel that you have released all aspects that you which to.
It is important to realise that emotional issues can arise when you use a technique such as this one. Self care and lots of it is the answer to deal with any emotional issues that arise as a result of doing this visualisation. Drink plenty of water throughout the day, eat well, take rest when you need to, use rose quartz and always seek medical advice when and where appropriate. Crystal healing is a complementary therapy and is not a substitute for appropriate medical care.